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Thursday, April 29, 2010

Letter of Intent – 04/30/10

Foursons

You know how you wish you could fire off a letter to that person or company telling them just E.X.AC.T.L.Y what you thought of them but would never actually do that? Well, here’s your chance. At least a virtual chance that is. Write that letter you’ve been wanting to send, then head over to Foursons and link up with the blog dominator Julie. You all remember Julie, right? It’s because of her the word "blunked" came into existence. Anyway, get that letter written and off your chest. You’ll feel better and the track record with sending them to companies is pretty impressive. I’m just saying.

Dear Rude “I’m better than you and don’t want to wait any longer” Driver:

Did you mama even TEACH you any manners? Do you even know what manners are? I still cannot believe what I witnessed you do the other day.

You see Sir, here in the South, and I’m sure north of the Mason-Dixon does too, we take the passing of our people very seriously. When a funeral procession travels down the road, taking someone’s loved one to their final resting place, we pull our cars over on the side of the road and let them pass. I remember when men would still get out of their cars or trucks, take their hats off and respectfully place them over their hearts. You don’t just wait for the hearse or the family car to pass and then merge in with the rest of the mourners. Are you kidding me? That was just about the most horrible thing I’ve seen a person do. Are you trying to tell the rest of us that you are so important that you cannot be made to wait a few minutes for a funeral procession to pass? I find that hard to believe sir. I think the problem is you’re just a crass, worthless piece of trash and sadder than that, you thought it was ok to do this. What is this world coming to when we can’t show respect to the deceased? Let me give you a little etiquette lesson on funerals here because this Southern Mama is tired of all the rude, impolite behavior out there and if we can’t be respectful with regards to someone’s passing, then I don’t know if I hold out much hope for the next generations that are coming up.

Obituaries in a southern newspaper are literary works of art I tell you. People don't die - they go on to meet their beloved husband/wife who has been "waiting for 30 years since they passed to welcome them to their Heavenly mansion on the streets of gold." Why, just this week I read about a lovely woman from my home town who had succumbed to that evil, wretched monster cancer. Her obituary said, “Elvis' heavenly audience grew when his biggest fan joined him on Saturday, April 24, 2010 as {the name of the dearly departed} continued her journey beyond the constraints of her physical body and went to be with her father, mother and host of other family members and friends.”

There are books written about the proper way to host a funeral:

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We will get out the good china and the silver because the mourners have been asked “Y’all are coming back the house, right?” and when they get there can count on seeing at least five cakes, four assorted casseroles, three sandwich trays and two plates of deviled eggs. Minimum.

We will eat to our heart’s content, share all our good memories of our loved one and talk about what a shame it was they had to go so soon. We don’t care that Aunt Phenelia was 86 – she still had so much life left in her. We will help the family clean up, despite their protests, and we will make sure they have weeks, if not months, of meals in their freezer so as not to have to worry about cooking. We will call them and check on them in the weeks to come.

So you see Mr. Impatient – there’s more to a funeral than just some cars that caused you to have to stop on the side of a road. It is our last chance to show our loved ones just what they meant to us. Maybe the next time you encounter a funeral procession, you will use that time to offer up a prayer for those taking their loved one to the cemetery, think about those you loved who’ve gone to their great reward and never, ever, ever pull you car into a procession of mourners because it doesn’t fit into your schedule.

Signed,

Someone who truly wished manners and social graces were taken more seriously these days


It's also Friday Follow so I'm double-dipping today. Hope I don't scare off any first-time visitors!

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42 comments:

GunDiva said...

I seem to say this to you a lot, but AMEN!

Shana said...

Ok so I came for Friday Follow but was thrilled to read your letter! I am from the south too. I live in Georgia and you are so right on with the way we are about funerals. I cannot stand disrespecting the recently departed. So wrong on so many levels. Amen.

Rachel said...

Is it really so different in the South? I'm over here in the Northwest and we'd never dream of interrupting a funeral procession. And memorial services are a big deal - as well as "coming back to the house" (which is why I was so incensed when that woman allowed her daughter to beat her up and yell during the recent funeral we attended).

Is it bad to admit that I love your writing so much that I laughed several times throughout this VERY SERIOUS discussion?

And hey - maybe the dude was like me and you and could mess up a one-car funeral? ;)

By the way - I love Blunk and Frocs, but I wasn't sure your "Southern Belle Trying Not To RUSE" was intentional on your link-up at Julie's :)

Tawnya said...

You know that I miss all of those things about the South. I am in Michigan now and sometimes I feel my southerness slipping away...

http://diaryofawimpywoman.blogspot.com

InspiredGifts.com said...

Hi there! Stopping by from FF. You touched such a soft spot for me, I'm a southern girl too living in England. I miss my southern roots everyday. I'm following you!

I would love for you to visit me at
http://inspiredgiftsblog.blogspot.com/2010_04_01_archive.html

Have a beautiful day
Becky :)

blueviolet said...

I have never seen anybody do that with a funeral procession. That is so completely classless! Horrid!

Aunt Crazy said...

That driver is lucky that one of those Texans didn't shoot his sorry rude hateful inconsiderate bastard ass!!!

Mass Hole Mommy said...

Hi there! Stopping by from the FF!!

Kmama said...

I'm glad you used this as your LOI. What a sorry piece of crap. Grr.

MommyDeegan said...

I so enjoyed reading your LOI that I am now following! Loved your writing and agree 100%!

if you have a chance come visit me at http://thedeegandaily.blogspot.com

mommydeegan

Foursons said...

Being from the south, I never imagined that funerals and obits were any other way. I just assumed all did these things for their loved ones. That's what I get for assuming though. It makes me sick to think someone cut into a funeral procession because of their busy schedule. I hope he/she had better reasons for their behavior.

Thanks for linking up!

Kara @ His, Hers and Ours said...

Newest follower, and I join in with you on the POS that do this. I'm in the South too, and it INFURIATES me when I see this done. This is the last persons chance to have their family and friends with them. How in the world can someone justify that they are more important?

Happy Friday!

Stuff could always be worse said...

I love the South, I am in GA. Dropping by on friday follower
kim

{Kimber} said...

What a D-bag!! no respect I tell ya!

Michelle Hoad said...

AMEN, sister! People have no manners any more. What has happened to our nation? During my three year stint as a vegetarian, I went to a family funeral and there were no fewer than 14 casseroles. All with meat. Even the macaroni and cheese had ham in it. I grew up on a cattle ranch, so my family thought I was totally betraying them by not eating meat.

singedwingangel said...

OH se nooooo not today nor tomorrow. I would have had to lay hands on someone and not in a prayerful way.. You don't pass a funeral procession like that. I don't care if you have to hit the ditch cuse the road is barely wide enough for one car, YOU PARK IT. Turn it off. completely.. and wait.. period..

~J said...

I'm your newest follower!! So glad I found your blog...and I can't be easily scared off! ;)

http://boobiesbabiesblog.blogspot.com

Angie said...

Hey girlie! As usual, such a pleasure to read your blog... :)

Kristen said...

Hi! Over from FF. I LOVED this post, I too am a southern girl, and I completely agree, please show some respect to the mourners. I was stuck in traffic on day, just steamed that there was a traffic jam in the middle of the day, and as I got on my way, I realized it was a funeral procession that was holding up the traffic. Stopped me in my tracks. How humbling to know that the world does not revolve around me, and what a blessing that it was not me following a loved one to their final resting place.

Kimberly said...

LOVE your post today! Can't scare this southern girl off! Following from the Friday Follow, come see me!
-Kimberly

Kelly said...

I agree with you 100% - some people need to learn their manners!

Rachel said...

Well, this is not just a southern thing. I'm from NY, (perhaps the state with the reputation for the MOST rudeness,) and no one I know would cut into a funeral procession. In fact, most of the time in my town, the police will direct the procession through the town so that no one has to stop at lights, etc, and everyone can stay together. I remember the funeral of an ex's young cousin. She was 19, and we passed by her high school... and the flag was NOT at half mast. First of all, they knew we were coming by. Second of all, in MY high school, if a student passed away, the flag stays at half for a week. Their super considerate excuse for this was that there was no law saying they had to do it. They may as well have slapped her mother in the face. I was HORRIFIED. So yes, everyone please take time to honor the dead. I don't care what the excuse, it matters to someone.

Stacey said...

You tell 'em!

I came up on a funeral Monday and I pulled over for it, always have and always will! But, anyway, I could tell the car behind me was going to try and pass me, so I stayed out in the road a little so they couldn't! bwahaha!

Mr. Daddy said...

Yep mean people and rude people suck... no matter were...

can't believe that I was not a follower....

but I am now 150 woot!!!!! woot!!!

Jenna said...

I'm your newest follower from FF! You can visit/follow me at www.momsbalancingact.com :)

Jenna

Beth said...

EXCELLENT post! Just found you from Julie's blog (LoI) and LOVE your blog so I am following and will be back. Unless I get lost ... in which case you may want to come find me. But don't look for me in any funeral processions because I will not be jumping into the middle of those! I may be a transplanted Yankee trying to act Southern but I still have at least some class! ;)

http://bethaworkinprogress.blogspot.com/

Marice said...

following u from FF! Feel free to visit me here:
Life Can't Wait and Up Now and What's Next

LindsayDianne said...

You Tell 'Em! I just got my learner's. Can't wait to flip someone off. :D

Katie's Dailies said...

Can I hear an "amen"? Man, you took the words out of my mouth. There is nothing more disturbing than to see regular folks mixed in with a funeral procession. Have they no SHAME??

And secretly, I kinda like reading the obits in our paper. I love how they're written up like a little story!

New follower, and can't wait to read more from you!

MelissaAggie98 said...

Happy FF!

I'm your newest follower...if you get a chance, will you please follow me too at http://www.mommylivingthelifeofriley.com

Have a great day!

Kelly L said...

Love your letter - wow...
From your newest stalker.

Love,
Kelly
http://www.ivebecomemymother.com

casey aubut said...

LOVE that post! I can not believe anyone would do such a thing- and I am from AZ!! :)

I am now your newest follower from Friday Follow! Would love for you to check out my blog also! :)

Have a great weekend!
www.aubutfamily.com

Dee Crowe said...

New follower from FF. I really enjoyed this post and I look forward to reading more! Oh, and I grabbed your button too because it is adorable!

Have a great weekend!

dee @ barefootbathandbody.blogspot.com

Santa's Gift Shoppe and Ideas said...

Hi..I’m Barb ….I am from Fri. Follow.. I am your newest follower. I hope you will get a chance to visit my blog @ santasgiftshoppe.blogspot.com
& get inspired by something for your family/home. I hope you will follow me as well. Nice to meet ya new friend!!!

HeatherOz said...

Unbelievable! It would take a copy of your letter before the guy figured it out though! Most people just think they are the only ones on the road and can just cruise around however they want!

Evelyn said...

First of a hearty AMEN! I am from the midwest, but I remember being told growing up, we pull over, we turn on our headlights in sort of a salute to the mourners, and we bow our heads in prayer.

I live in MI now, and I was part of a funeral, and we were turning, I was third car back, the light turned, and a guy in the on coming traffic shot across, and almost clipped me so he could turn into the gas station. I really wanted to pull in after him and have some words. I couldn't believe it.

Glad I found you on FF New fan!

Candance said...

I've said it before, and I'll say it again-I love me a good obituary. I really do. People not acting right in a funeral procession ticks me off.

All this talk about funerals is making me want homemade mac and cheese.

joeandbridge said...

Hi! Poppin' in from Friday Follow to be your newest Follower! Have a wonderful weekend and pop by my blog if you get a chance. I love new followers! :)

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The Groschen Goblins
http://www.groschengoblins.com/2010/04/friday-follow-april-30-gbop-giveaway-2.html

Small Town Girl said...

You said it! And I'm sure glad you did.

Shannon said...

I just love your blog sweetie! Great interview with Dee @say anything!

Jeanette Huston said...

I am following you from Friday Follow!

Jeanette Huston
http://www.mommyblessingsinsmallbundles.com/

Jeanette Huston said...

I am following you from Friday Follow!

Jeanette Huston
http://www.mommyblessingsinsmallbundles.com/